Reflection for March 14, Tuesday of the Third Week of Lent: Matthew 18:21-35

Gospel: Matthew 18:21-35

Peter approached Jesus and asked him, “Lord, if my brother sins against me, how often must I forgive him? As many as seven times?” Jesus answered, “I say to you, not seven times but seventy-seven times. That is why the Kingdom of heaven may be likened to a king who decided to settle accounts with his servants. 

When he began the accounting, a debtor was brought before him who owed him a huge amount. Since he had no way of paying it back, his master ordered him to be sold, along with his wife, his children, and all his property, in payment of the debt. At that, the servant fell down, did him homage, and said, ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay you back in full.’ 

Moved with compassion the master of that servant let him go and forgave him the loan. When that servant had left, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a much smaller amount. He seized him and started to choke him, demanding, ‘Pay back what you owe.’ Falling to his knees, his fellow servant begged him, ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay you back.’ But he refused. Instead, he had him put in prison until he paid back the debt. 

Now when his fellow servants saw what had happened, they were deeply disturbed, and went to their master and reported the whole affair. His master summoned him and said to him, ‘You wicked servant! 

I forgave you your entire debt because you begged me to. Should you not have had pity on your fellow servant, as I had pity on you?’ Then in anger his master handed him over to the torturers until he should pay back the whole debt. So will my heavenly Father do to you, unless each of you forgives your brother from your heart.”

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Reflection:

The story is told about an unforgiving man who would always harbor resentment towards those who have hurt him. Be unforgiving was always his attitude towards those who did him wrong until he had a heart attack. After he recovered from his sickness, he decided not to keep any resentment anymore and he subsequently felt like a bird freed from a cage.   

Is it normal for us to harbor resentment/anger? Yes of course for we are humans with emotions. But we must not let our anger/resentment control us by allowing it safe harbor in our hearts for so long. Therefore, after that moment wherein we let our feeling of resentment control us let us quickly allow Jesus’ teaching on forgiveness to take over our selfish and destructive feelings.  

In the gospel Peter asked Jesus, "Lord, if my brother sins against me, how often must I forgive? As many as seven times?"  Jesus answered, "I say to you, not seven times but seventy-seven times (Matthew 18:21-22). 

This is a very simple yet very effective teaching about forgiveness for us from Jesus. In other words the Lord is saying to us that we should always be forgiving. It’s normal for us to be hurt but let us not allow these hurtful feelings to control and to wound us permanently. Hence, we can only be freed from the vicious control of anger which by the way comes from the devil, if we forgive those who have hurt us. 

What if we don’t forgive? We are only hurting ourselves if we don’t forgive and we only put ourselves in an invisible prison cell called unforgiveness. And then this unforgiveness will sooner or later bring us down until we self-destruct.   

What if we follow Jesus’ teaching on forgiveness, how would we feel?  We feel light and free and we have no burden in our hearts. Don’t we all want to feel light, to feel free and without any burdens and hurtful feelings in our hearts? 

There are two options before us: To follow Jesus’ teaching on infinite forgiveness or we continue to punish and burden ourselves by unforgiveness. The wisdom filled choice is to follow Jesus’ teaching. – Marino J. Dasmarinas