He then said to Simon Peter a second time,
"Simon, son of John, do you love me?" Simon Peter answered him,
"Yes, Lord, you know that I love you." He said to him, "Tend my
sheep." He said to him the third time, "Simon, son of John, do you
love me?" Peter was distressed that he had said to him a third time,
"Do you love me?" and he said to him, "Lord, you know
everything; you know that I love you."
Jesus said to him, "Feed my sheep. Amen, amen, I
say to you, when you were younger, you used to dress yourself and go where you
wanted; but when you grow old, you will stretch out your hands, and someone
else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go." He said
this signifying by what kind of death he would glorify God. And when he had
said this, he said to him, "Follow me."
Perhaps “I love you” is one of the most commonly spoken yet most misunderstood phrases in our world today. Many of us say these words easily, without fully realizing how deep, sacred, and meaningful they truly are. This may be the reason why, when relationships are tested by pain, struggles, disappointments, and hardships, the words “I love you” can slowly change into “I don’t love you anymore,” and eventually into “I want to separate from you.”
In our Gospel today, Jesus reminds us that true love is never separated from responsibility, commitment, and sacrifice. This is why, when Jesus asked Peter three times, “Do you love me?” He also entrusted him with a mission: “Tend my sheep,” and “Feed my sheep.” Love, therefore, is not merely expressed through words or emotions; it is proven through faithfulness, service, perseverance, and self-giving.
As followers of Christ, we are invited to reflect deeply on the words we speak. How often have we said “I love you” without fully embracing the accountability and responsibility that come with genuine love? How often have we allowed love to be guided only by emotions, personal desires, or temporary feelings, rather than by commitment, sacrifice, and sincere concern for others?
True love is not measured by sweet words alone. Authentic love remains faithful even during moments of pain, misunderstanding, sacrifice, and trials. The love that Jesus teaches us is a love that serves, forgives, endures, and remains steadfast until the end. It is a love willing to carry the cross for the good of another.
Today, may we ask the Lord to purify our hearts and deepen our understanding of love. May our words always be matched by our actions, and may the love we give reflect the faithful and enduring love of Christ Himself.
When we say, “I love you,” are we truly ready to live out the sacrifices, responsibilities, and lifelong commitment that genuine love requires?—Marino J. Dasmarinas








