No, I tell you, but rather division. From now on a
household of five will be divided, three against two and two against three; a
father will be divided against his son and a son against his father, a mother
against her daughter and a daughter against her mother, a mother-in-law against
her daughter-in-law and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law.”
A
few days later, the second friend was caught by the school authorities using
illegal drugs. The first friend, who was a devout follower of Jesus, urged his
best friend to straighten out his life. He even told him that if he continued
down that path, he would have to distance himself from him.
All
along, we may have viewed Jesus as a unifying force and a man of peace. And
indeed, He is our Lord of peace and the source of our unity. Yet, in the
Gospel, we also encounter another aspect of His mission: His teachings can
become a source of division and conflict, even among family members and
friends.
Why?
Because following Jesus does not always make everyone happy with us. Sometimes,
choosing what is right means standing against what is wrong, even when doing so
displeases the people we love. Jesus challenges us to examine our lives,
abandon our sinful ways, and remain faithful to God, even when the cost of
doing so is painful.
For
example, if some members of our family refuse to attend Sunday Mass, should we
simply keep quiet and let things be? Of course not! We can gently remind them
of the importance of worshipping God and celebrating the Holy Eucharist. We
must do so with patience, understanding, and love, remembering that our purpose
is not to condemn them but to help them grow closer to Jesus.
Here
is another example: Suppose a member of our family becomes pregnant outside
marriage, and someone suggests abortion as a solution. Should we remain silent
and simply agree with that suggestion? No. As followers of Jesus, we are called
to uphold the dignity and sacredness of human life while offering compassionate
support to the mother.
We
must accompany her with love, help her explore life-affirming options, and
assure her that she does not have to face her difficult situation alone. Our
Christian convictions must be expressed not only through the words we speak but
also through the compassion and support we offer.
Indeed,
being a true follower of Jesus requires courage. We cannot always remain silent
just to avoid disagreements or preserve our relationships at the expense of our
Christian convictions. There are times when we must speak up for what is right,
even when our words are unpopular and our decisions are misunderstood.
However,
we must also remember that correcting others does not mean forcing our beliefs
on them or treating them as though we are better than they are. We, too, are
sinners who need God's mercy, forgiveness, and guidance. Therefore, whenever we
correct someone who is going astray, let us do so with humility, gentleness,
and genuine concern for that person's spiritual well-being. Let our words be
firm enough to uphold the truth but gentle enough to show the love of Jesus.
Sometimes,
our efforts to guide others back to the right path may lead to disagreements,
hurt feelings, or even temporary separation. When this happens, let us not
immediately give up on them. We cannot force anyone to change, nor can we
control the decisions of those we love. What we can do is continue to pray for
them, set a good example, and patiently entrust them to God's loving care.
After
all, our responsibility is not to win every argument but to remain faithful to
Jesus. If others listen to our words, let us rejoice and continue encouraging
them. If they refuse to listen, let us remain patient and continue loving them
without compromising the truth. Sometimes, the seed of faith we plant today may
take a long time to grow, but we must never underestimate what God's grace can
accomplish in a person's heart.
Let
us remember that following Jesus is not always the easiest path, but it is
always a call to love, truth, and faithfulness. He does not call us to create
unnecessary divisions; He calls us to remain faithful to the truth even when
that faithfulness exposes differences between us and the people we love.
And so, when we are faced with a choice
between pleasing others and standing for what is right, will we have the
courage to remain faithful to Jesus, speaking the truth with love, showing
compassion to those who disagree with us, and trusting God to touch the hearts
of those we cannot change?— Marino J. Dasmarinas

