Saturday, December 29, 2007

A CHRISTIAN'S WAY TO REDUCE STRESS (author unknown)

An Angel says, "Never borrow from the future. If you worry about what may happen tomorrow and it doesn't happen, you have worried in vain.Even if it does happen, you have to worry twice."


1. Pray


2. Go to bed on time.


3. Get up on time so you can start the day unrushed.


4. Say No to projects that won't fit into your time schedule, or that will compromise your mental health.


5. Delegate tasks to capable others.


6. Simplify and unclutter your life.


7. Less is more.. (Although one is often not enough, two are often to many.)


8. Allow extra time to do things and to get to places.


9. Pace yourself. Spread out big changes and difficult projects overtime; don't lump the hard things all together.


10. Take one day at a time.


11. Separate worries from concerns. If a situation is a concern, findout what God would have you do and let go of the anxiety. If you can't do anything about a situation, forget it.


12. Live within your budget; don't use credit cards for ordinary purchases.


13 . Have backups; an extra car key in your wallet, an extra housekey buried in the garden, extra stamps, etc.


14. K.M.S. (Keep Mouth Shut). This single piece of advice can preventan enormous amount of trouble.


15. Do something for the Kid in You everyday.


16. Carry a Bible with you to read while waiting in line.


17. Get enough rest.


18. Eat right.


19. Get organized so everything has its place.


20. Listen to a tape while driving that can help improve your quality of life.


21. Write down thoughts and inspirations.


22. Every day, find time to be alone.


23. Having problems? Talk to God on the spot.. Try to nip small problems in the bud. Don't wait until it's time to go to bed to try and pray.


24. Make friends with Godly people.


25. Keep a folder of favorite scriptures on hand.


26. Remember that the shortest bridge between despair and hope is often a good "Thank you Jesus."


27. Laugh.


28. Laugh some more!


29. Take your work seriously, but not yourself at all.


30. Develop a forgiving attitude (most people are doing the best they can).


31. Be kind to unkind people (they probably need it the most).


32. Sit on your ego.


33. Talk less; listen more.


34. Slow down.


35. Remind yourself that you are not the general manager of the universe.


36 . Every night before bed, think of one thing you're grateful for that you've never been grateful for before.


37. Attend Holy Mass if possible everyday or during Sundays.


GOD HAS A WAY OF TURNING THINGS AROUND FOR YOU. "If God is for us, who can be against us?"(Romans 8:31)

Thursday, December 27, 2007

Life begins at 40?

Today, December 26 is my 40th birthday. How time flies I’m already 40, it’s just like yesterday when I was studying and working at the same time to earn my college degrees and my post graduate study. It was as if yesterday when I was dreaming of becoming rich, owning a very nice car and having a big house but I remain to be materially marginalized. It was as if yesterday when I had my countless conversations with my father who died thirteen years ago; it was as if yesterday when I married my beautiful wife but that was almost twelve (12) years ago and it was as if yesterday when we were deputized by our Bishop to officially become Extra- Ordinary Ministers of the Holy Communion. There’s a whole lot of: “as if yesterdays” memories that seems still within my reach but it’s beyond me already. I just have to look back and relish those memories once in a while.

I’m in the irreversible present and I’m forty (40), they say: “life begins at forty” I don’t know who coined this quote that our life begins at forty. I beg to disagree, life doesn’t begin at forty. Life begins when we were freed from the doctrine of Original Sin and we officially become a member of the Universal Church. That’s our Baptismal date but the funny thing is: we remember our birthday but doesn’t know our Baptismal date.

Life begins when we become aware of our responsibilities towards our family, our fellowmen and God. Responsibilities that reminds us that we don’t live for our own self-centered sake.

Life begins at forty? I beg to completely disagree!

Tuesday, December 18, 2007

The fragility of our lives...


The fragility of our lives...
by: Marino J. Dasmarinas

Last night our Parish secretary informed me that I have a scheduled funeral blessing; I said OK I’ll go.
So I went there, upon finding the place I introduced myself to the relatively young wife then I said: “I will now bless him please gather all the relatives.” As I was saying the blessings and prayers I noticed that the wife was crying profusely.
After I was through, I asked her: “what was the cause of death of your husband and how old is he?” She said: “His fifthly (50) years old and his death is totally unexpected.” He just arrived from work then after a few minutes of rest in the sofa he suddenly died. ... After our short conversation I told her:  “I have to go now” and she said: “Thank you very much” I said in return: “You’re welcome and pray for his soul’s eternal repose.”
As I was walking away from their house, I can’t help but reflect on the fragility of our lives, that it can be taken away from us any time and any place. As I glance back at their house, I told myself maybe she was seriously crying because, there were loving words left unsaid, there were loving embraces left undone and there were loving moments left to pass them by. ...
As an afterthought: Express your love to your relatives and don’t hold back on doing good to everyone.
Remember the fragility of our lives…

Monday, November 26, 2007

A certain man and his three friends.

There is an old Jewish story which goes like this. A certain man had three friends.


He liked two of them; but had little use for the third. One day he was ordered to appear in court. Alarmed, he looked around for someone to defend him. He immediately thought of his two favorite friends.


One said, "No way! I'm not going into any court." The second one said, "I'll go as far as the king's gate but no farther."


In despair the man then asked his least-loved friend for help. He said, "Sure, I'll come." And he did come, and he defended the man so well that he won his case.


Jewish rabbis go on to explain the story like this: Every person has three friends when Death calls and he must appear before his Creator. The friend he loves most is money; but it cannot go with him a single step.


The second friend is his circle of relatives and neighbors. They can only accompany him to the grave side. In no way can they defend him before the Judge.


His third friend, whom he neither likes nor esteems, is the only one that accompanies him to the judge and wins his case.


That friend is his list of good deeds done during his lifetime. ... (Jacob Braude)

Monday, November 12, 2007

My narrative on the last two days of my Aunt: Gilda D. Altamia (Feb 1, 1934-Nov. 9, 2007)


(Mila, Cynthia Villar, Gem and Eden)

Last Friday (Nov. 9), Auntie Gilda succumbed to her lingering ailment. She triumphantly defeated her oppressive sickness. I was there and I witnessed her last two days in this material world to which we presently belong.

It was last Thursday (November 8) when I first saw her in the hospital. Her two sisters (Mila and Eden) were taking care of her. I was with my siblings (Grace, Jun-jun, Darwin, and Nino). Upon seeing her, I had this gut feeling that it is just a matter of time before she departs to the great beyond. She was very thin, and her breathing was deep, her eyes barely open. There were three nurses with her they were frantically trying to find a vein where they could insert a needle to facilitate the passage of medicines to her body. They tried it on her hands, they tried it on her feet to no avail. We therefore asked: “What’s the problem?” they told us that they can’t locate a vein. They went out for about thirty minutes then they were at it again trying to locate a vein: They were successful this time.

Afterward, I said, 'Hi, Auntie,' while slowly massaging her forehead. It was a very painful sight to see for a woman who was always full of life. To keep the mood light, I said to her, 'You'll get well.' She slowly nodded, as if saying, 'Yes, I will get well. 

Every now and then she would be restless. She would move side to side then she would slowly motion that she wants to be seated. So, I would lift her up, only for her to lie down again. This became her routine for the day.

Later in the afternoon her doctor told us that she was slowly being poisoned by her blood and it results in her constant unguarded movements. After the doctor left she motioned again to be seated. This time it was auntie Mila who helped her to be seated and while seated Mila embraced her while saying: ‘We love you, do you love us?’ And she would groan as if saying: Yes I also love you all! I lost count of those beautiful and touching exchanges of loving words and groans. I was looking at them and I witnessed a very moving sight of love: Agape love.

Around 7:00 pm her doctors came again and frankly told us that she needed to be put on a breathing machine (ventilator) or she would probably die anytime. We huddled for a brief moment and said, please do whatever it takes to extend her life. After a while, the machine was brought in, and we were politely instructed to leave the room first so that they could proceed with the procedure.

After about 30 minutes, we were informed that the ventilator had already been attached, and we could go inside now. So, we entered the room and saw her with all these tubes attached to her. This time, she was unresponsive to our whispers and urgings; I think she was already in a comatose state by then. 


Subsequently, Auntie Gilda's grandchildren and daughter-in-law also came. After a few minutes, her daughter (Gem) arrived from Singapore. Here, I witnessed another moving and heart-rending scene. Gem was sobbing deeply while caressing her Mama and saying, 'Mama, you told me we would still talk. You told me that you would wait for me.' Motionless, I suddenly saw tears flowing from my aunt's eyes, as if to tell her that she was hearing her cries and pleas. Then, she slowly started to move one of her hands toward her mouth as if trying to remove the ventilator so that she could talk, even for a short time. We gently blocked her hand and whispered to her not to remove the tube. After a while, her son (Boyet) called, and the cell phone was put to her ear. I believe she heard him because tears started to slowly flow from her eyes again. 

Around 12:30 am we went home. 

The next day, we were there again. We arrived around 5:30 pm, and it was the last hour and a half that I would see her breathing. After staying out of the room for about 15 minutes, I went inside and quickly went outside to call our relatives. Then we closed the door and prayed. We made the sign of the cross and prayed the Our Father (the prayer that Jesus told us to pray, Matthew 6:9-15), with three Hail Marys and one Glory Be. Then, I followed it up with a spontaneous prayer, lifting, commending, and entrusting her to God, while my relatives were saying 'Yes, Lord' and 'Amen.' After the prayers, I tenderly caressed her forehead while silently saying a prayer.

(Cynthia Villar, Mila and Elsa)

After that, I went out of the room while my relatives were praying the Rosary. When they were through, I went inside again with a prayer booklet that I got from the lobby where the image of Mama Mary was located. I prayed to Mama Mary to take care of my aunt's journey towards heaven. Then, we made the sign of the Cross, and I read the prayers and the litanies. My aunt was still breathing, softly and very slowly, and the line on the screen that monitored her heartbeat was nearly flat already.

I went out of the room again and after that went back inside and I witnessed her last grasp of breath, the line on the indicator was already flat. I softly touched her still-warm body while saying my silent prayer for her and I closed her eyes, kissed her on the forehead and I slowly walked towards the door: my eyes welling up with tears.   

Death is always a good wake-up call for all of us who are still on this temporary journey. It is a reminder that we will also go through this process. There's no exception: rich or poor, learned or not.

For me, life is as simple as the rising and setting of the Sun. In the morning, we slowly see the Sun beautifully rising, and late in the afternoon, we see it magnificently setting as well. It's also like a song, with its beginning and eventual ending, and it's like rain; it pours, and after a while, the pouring ends.

(Mila, Boyet and Cynthia Villar)

That’s our life too: we have our beginning and eventual ending. What is important while we are still actively on this journey called life is that we know who Jesus is and have a deep friendship with Him. 

We can always develop a deep friendship with Jesus through the Holy Mass. In the Holy Mass, the words of God are read in the Liturgy of the Word, and Jesus is made present in the Liturgy of the Eucharist. Upon the consecration of the Priest who acts in Persona Christi (in the Person of Christ), the ordinary bread and wine become the Body and Blood of Jesus. In the Mass, the scene of the Last Supper is repeated, when on the night before His crucifixion, Jesus instituted the Eucharist, and that was the first celebration of the Holy Mass (Luke 22:14-20).

It is also important that we read the Bible, especially the Gospels of Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John, because in these Gospels, we will gain personal knowledge of who Jesus really is.

If we know Jesus, we need not fear death because death is the final hurdle to be in heaven with the angels, with the saints, and with Mama Mary. And finally, to be in the permanent company of our Triune God.

Eternal rest grant unto Gilda O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon her. May her soul, and the souls of all the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen. - Marino J. Dasmarinas

Wednesday, October 31, 2007

Images and magnificent work of art inside Catholic Churches does it have basis in the Bible?

If we go inside Catholic Churches be it here in the Philippines or in any parts of the world. We will notice that it has magnificent structures, artworks and various kinds of images most notably the images of Saints, Mary and Jesus. Is this based in the Bible?

Those who are uninitiated in the Catholic faith would say that it doesn’t have any basis in the Bible. In fact some Christians sects criticizes Catholics for having this images. And they sometimes use this as a point of argument to sow intrigue among Catholics so that they will be able to convince some Catholics to leave the faith and eventually join them.

Here’s the real score: Images and artworks in the Catholic Church has its foundation in the Bible in the following passages:

From Mount Hor they set out on the Red Sea road, to by-pass the land of Edom. But with their patience worn out by the journey, the people complained against God and Moses, "Why have you brought us up from Egypt to die in this desert, where there is no food or water? We are disgusted with this wretched food!" In punishment the LORD sent among the people saraph serpents, which bit the people so that many of them died. Then the people came to Moses and said, "We have sinned in complaining against the LORD and you. Pray the LORD to take the serpents from us." So Moses prayed for the people, and the LORD said to Moses, "Make a saraph and mount it on a pole, and if anyone who has been bitten looks at it, he will recover." Moses accordingly made a bronze serpent and mounted it on a pole, and whenever anyone who had been bitten by a serpent looked at the bronze serpent, he recovered. Numbers 21:4-9

For when the dire venom of beasts came upon them and they were dying from the bite of crooked serpents, your anger endured not to the end. But as a warning, for a short time they were terrorized, though they had a sign of salvation, to remind them of the precept of your law. For he who turned toward it was saved, not by what he saw, but by you, the savior of all. And by this also you convinced our foes that you are he who delivers from all evil. For the bites of locusts and of flies slew them, and no remedy was found to save their lives because they deserved to be punished by such means; But not even the fangs of poisonous reptiles overcame your sons, for your mercy brought the antidote to heal them. For as a reminder of your injunctions, they were stung, and swiftly they were saved, Lest they should fall into deep forgetfulness and become unresponsive to your beneficence. For indeed, neither herb nor application cured them, but your all-healing word, O LORD! For you have dominion over life and death; you lead down to the gates of the nether world, and lead back. Man, however, slays in his malice, but when the spirit has come away, it does not return, nor can he bring back the soul once it is confined. Wisdom 16:5-14

You shall make an ark of acacia wood, two and a half cubits long, one and a half cubits wide, and one and a half cubits high. Plate it inside and outside with pure gold, and put a molding of gold around the top of it. Cast four gold rings and fasten them on the four supports of the ark, two rings on one side and two on the opposite side. Then make poles of acacia wood and plate them with gold. These poles you are to put through the rings on the sides of the ark, for carrying it; they must remain in the rings of the ark and never be withdrawn. In the ark you are to put the commandments which I will give you. "You shall then make a propitiatory of pure gold, two cubits and a half long, and one and a half cubits wide. Make two cherubim of beaten gold for the two ends of the propitiatory, fastening them so that one cherub springs direct from each end. The cherubim shall have their wings spread out above, covering the propitiatory with them; they shall be turned toward each other, but with their faces looking toward the propitiatory. This propitiatory you shall then place on top of the ark. In the ark itself you are to put the commandments which I will give you. There I will meet you and there, from above the propitiatory, between the two cherubim on the ark of the commandments, I will tell you all the commands that I wish you to give the Israelites. Exodus 25:10-22

In the sanctuary were two cherubim, each ten cubits high, made of olive wood. Each wing of a cherub measured five cubits so that the space from wing tip to wing tip of each was ten cubits. The cherubim were identical in size and shape and each was exactly ten cubits high. The cherubim were placed in the inmost part of the temple, with their wings spread wide, so that one wing of each cherub touched a side wall while the other wing, pointing toward the middle of the room, touched the corresponding wing of the second cherub. The cherubim, too, were overlaid with gold. The walls on all sides of both the inner and the outer rooms had carved figures of cherubim, palm trees, and open flowers. The floor of both the inner and the outer rooms was overlaid with gold. 1 kings 6:23-28

The sea was then cast; it was made with a circular rim, and measured ten cubits across, five in height, and thirty in circumference. Under the brim, gourds encircled it, ten to the cubit all the way around; the gourds were in two rows and were cast in one mold with the sea. This rested on twelve oxen, three facing north, three facing west, three facing south, and three facing east, with their haunches all toward the center, where the sea was set upon0 them. It was a handbreadth thick, and its brim resembled that of a cup, being lily-shaped. Its capacity was two thousand measures. 1 kings 7:23-26

Wednesday, October 24, 2007

The Lesson of the Coffee bean.




THE LESSON OF THE COFFEE BEAN

Author Unknown


A daughter complained to her father about how hard things were farher. "As soon as I solve one problem," she said, "another one comes up. I'm tired of struggling."


Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen where he filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to aboil. In one he placed carrots, in the second, eggs, and in the last,ground coffee beans. He let them sit and boil, without saying a word.


The daughter impatiently waited, wondering what he was doing. After awhile, he went over and turned off the burners. He fished out the carrots and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the eggs out and placed them a bowl. He poured the coffee into a bowl. Turning to her heasked, "Darling, what do you see?"


"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.


He brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. He then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee. She smiled, as she tasted its rich flavor.


She asked, "What does it mean, Father?" He explained that each of them had faced the same adversity or problem -- boiling water -- but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting, but after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.


The egg was fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside hardened.


The ground coffee beans were unique, however. By being in the boiling water, they changed the water.


He asked his daughter, "When adversity or problems knocks on your door, which are you?"