There’s a story of a married couple they started out very well and it seems that their marriage is made to last until their deaths. After a year of being together God gifted them with a baby; it made their bond stronger.
After four years the seemingly strong marriage started to show little cracks. They were already often arguing on petty things. The arguments lead to verbal abuse then to physical confrontation it eventually led to their separation. On the sidelines was their innocent child silently crying and confused on what is going-on.
Here’s another story of a couple who’ve been together for twenty five years they already have grown-up children. After all those years of being together the wife suddenly realized that she had enough of her husband’s irresponsible behavior thus she fell out of love and decided to file for nullity of their Marriage.
Divorce or separation is always the easy way out. These tragic stories about married life is for real it may happen to our friends and it may happen to us too.
In the gospel Jesus is confronted with a probing question by the Pharisees: "Is it lawful for a husband to divorce his wife?" Jesus replied: "What did Moses command you?" They replied, "Moses permitted a husband to write a bill of divorce and dismiss her." (Deuteronomy 24:1). Jesus told them, "Because of the hardness of your hearts he wrote you this commandment.
This answer of Jesus still rings true today; because of the hardness of our hearts we choose to be selfish and decide to file for divorce. Not minding the irreparable damage that it will cause our children; we still choose to separate. This is a very selfish reason that is rooted in our lack of faith in God!
Why do married couples separate? The simple reason is this: God is not anymore in the center of their lives. If God is at the center of their lives they will certainly not choose the easy way out that is separation/divorce.
If Jesus is in the center of their lives they will choose to swallow their prides and talk things over. Perhaps even seek the help of a competent third party to help them rekindle the fire of love in their relationship.
God’s plan for married couple is marriage for eternity. In the Sacrament of Marriage Jesus commands us through the officiating Priest to be faithful to our marriage vows: “To have & to hold, to this day onward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and cherish until death do you part.”
One secret to a lasting family life is to pray as a family, to worship God in our church as a family. What a sight to behold a family that prays together, a family that worships God during the celebration of the Holy Mass. If a family is like that it will never go wrong because at the center of that family is the omnipotent God whose desire for married couples is to be married for life.
How’s your married/family life?